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Mini Breakdown
by MistakenIdentity @ 2008-04-25 - 14:08:54

I'm extremely frustrated! Last night I came in from work donning a new top. Nothing extravagent, expensive or that noticeable.

Since our finances merged I've fallen into that female trap of lying about the things I buy ('I've had it for ages' or 'it was in the sale' anyone?!). I had my story all worked out but last night he gave me a hug and asked, 'It's new isn't it?!'

I could have lied. In fact I should have lied but he seemed in such a good mood I didn't think it mattered. How wrong was I?! Off he went, ranting on about clearing it with him before I buy clothes, that I shouldn't be spending our money when we're planning a move and that I just bought a dvd (disc not player!! And that had been another drama) a week ago.

Usually I bite my lip and offer to take it back because at least then it blows over in time. The way it leaves me feeling like a total walkover is by the by. Last night I lost it against my better judgement. I wasn't angry but upset and as I sat there disecting our relationship I kept screaming at myself, 'why?! why are you putting yourself through this?! listen to what you're saying to him, you're not happy!'

It was horrible and his defiant nature just winds me up more. I poured my heart out to him to no avail. Suddenly everything was out there bare for him to see and he never blinked an eye. The horrible hour ended when he loaded on the pressure and said that I am the only thing in his life that makes him truly happy. Enter guilt and there I find myself hugging him and apologising... End of.

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deleted user [Visitor]

2008-04-25 @ 14:22
*hugs*

smitty1247smitty1247 [Member]
2008-04-25 @ 14:40

Well f#$k, if your the only thing in his life that makes him happy, why is screaming and yelling all the time. From personal experience here, it's a give an take and working towards a happy and mutual understanding of each other. He seems like all he knows is take and he's the authority. Besides, how can someone be happy when all they do is get upset at you.

Anyway,

*hugs* you'll get through it, it's always rough in the beginning.

boredrichboredrich [Member]
2008-04-25 @ 15:38

booo not good although I have to admit I have been guilty of it myself when jen goes on a spending spree and we are trying to save although I am no good with the guiilt thing and its normally me that ends up hugging and saying sorry :(

xmillyxxxxmillyxxx pro
2008-04-25 @ 15:49

((hugs)) Hope you have a better day tomorrow x

kevinwilsonkevinwilson pro
2008-04-25 @ 16:47

why is life so complicated?
sorry you're still going through the mincer xx

PrettyintelligentprincessPrettyintelligentprincess [Member]
2008-04-26 @ 00:19

He sounds anxious about finances...so try and talk. Take care x

PalmbloggingPalmblogging [Member]
2008-04-29 @ 13:07

Ok so you share your money but you work and should get a treat now and again. My ex-wife used to have an account her wages went into and somehow that was just hers whilst my wages paid mortgage and all the bills leaving me with diddlysquat. I still didnt go of the head at her spending. It seems controlling if you have to clear spending with him, I just hope he clears with you to balance that.

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